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According to the dictionary the word “value” has several meanings but there are just a few that I would like to focus on. 1. The regard that something is held to deserve; the importance, worth, or usefulness of something. 2. A person’s principles or standards of behavior; one’s judgement of what is important in life.

I chose these two definitions because so often I hear people refer to the first definition when it comes to how they advertise their self-worth, whether in a relationship or in regards to their jobs, etc….. They say things like they’re worth more than this, they deserve better, they aren’t settling for certain things or the famous “treat me the way I deserve to be treated.” Then in the same breath, when you try and figure out or adhere to what YOU see their value is to you, they say things like “I’m priceless,” and respond to you as if you aren’t doing enough or putting enough value on them. Well what value is higher than priceless? According to the dictionary the meaning of priceless is something so precious its’ value can’t be determined. So if that’s the case are we expecting too much from others? Why are we expecting others or giving others the power to determine what that value is if technically we should be so precious that there is no way a value can be determined? So many times we find ourselves upset at our loved ones or significant others because they can’t seem to ever measure up to what we think they should value us as. We get upset when we feel we are over worked and under paid. Question is, “Is that fair to the person who is providing compensation (whether it’s via affection, attention, time or monetary) based on what they view the value is? Is it fair that in their eyes they may think that what they are doing is more important than making the sacrifice to put you first? Is it fair that their idea of spending time may be eating the dinner that you cooked and watching a movie when you really want to put on some clothes, make reservations and go out? Is it fair that your job pays $10 and hour for specific duties and any other duties as assigned and you feel like you’re over worked and should be making $15 an hour?

The problem is we operate according to the first definition and then get upset when someone doesn’t come up with the same value for us that we see for ourselves. If the old saying deems true, that someone is only going to treat you the way you allow them too, then we technically should operate according to the second definition. If we set our own standards and exude behavior according to what we have determined would be acceptable for ourselves then others would have to either follow suit or carry on without us but either way we won’t be compromising our self-worth. If we displayed extraordinary work ethics, skills and abilities, then we would be able to speak up and negotiate pay and prayerfully come to an agreement that works. Instead of giving away our power for others to determine and place judgement on our value we need to live and walk in what we’ve determined our value is, and if it’s as precious and priceless as it should be, then nobody would ever be able to put us in a box or under value who we are.

Be the valuable priceless person that you are and enjoy the consistent effort of others working hard to constantly appreciate who you are. If they are constantly working towards a goal of reaching your value and there is no such limit we will always be treated and cared for with priceless appreciation.