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As a child I often participated in a game called "hide and seek". The objective is to conceal "hide" yourself while the person that is appointed to be the chaser gives you time by counting and then they come and find you. I remember laughing quietly and running while trying not to give up my sacred hiding spot. After a while the chaser would actually find and tag me or I'd run a different route until I got back to home base, where the chaser would have to start the cycle all over again. The thing is, if I got caught by the chaser is the game over or do we continue the fun and keep playing over and over again?

Although a relationship isn't a game, do you ever feel that the initial chase is? What happens when the "courtship" season is over and you are now committed? Do you continue to play over and over again to keep the fun and spice in the relationship or do get in to a mode of habit and complacency in your relationship and forget about the chase? So many times I hear people voice that the spice is gone. So often they express that "he doesn't romance me anymore", or "she doesn't keep herself up like she did at first" and then the interest starts to slowly fade. The excitement isn't so exciting. The longing to be in each other presence isn't quite as strong. What causes you to quit the chase?

I think that it is very important to continue what you did in the beginning throughout your relationship. Now don't get me wrong, life happens, you grow up, you have kids, needs change, your way of thinking is different, etc.....does that give you a pass? No! It means you simply have to tweak a few things. Just because you can no longer wear a two-piece to the beach ladies doesn't mean you can't wear a sexy one-piece. Just because you can't afford to get your hair done every week like you did at the beginning doesn't mean you have to go to bed with rollers or your hair all wrapped up. Buy a silk pillow case and leave your hair out sometimes with your pretty night gown on or no pj's at all. Just because you're tired from work men doesn't mean you come home leave your shoes in the front room sit in your favorite chair in front of the TV and wait for dinner to be served. Try coming home and showering to get your second wind and sit at the table while she's cooking and ask how her day went or if there is something you can do to help. Call her in the middle of the day and tell her you're having a long day but you made reservations and would love to take her on a dinner date.

Bottom line is the chase doesn't have to end just because you can't run as fast or as long as you use to. It's okay to slow down and catch your breath as long as you keep running.......